Disinformation
September 10, 2014 § 155 Comments
What nobody tells you as an artist is that every project starts at the beginning. Not just the blank page, the empty stage, but that you have to re-establish your credentials and your quality every time. You can coast on reputation a little, but it doesn’t last long if you don’t deliver.
What nobody tells you is that praise—a standing ovation, a good review, your teacher’s approval—makes you feel good for a day, but one line of internet criticism from a stranger reverberates in your skull forever.
Frankly, I don’t see what all the fuss is about.
(I tried to feel bad when that critic killed himself the next year, but I didn’t.)
What nobody tells your boyfriend is that writing 3000 words in a calm, soothing, supportive environment still leaves you too tired to call home at the end of the day. So does doing three twenty-minute shows.
And then feeling guilty about it. But not guilty enough to call.
What nobody tells you, the artist, the writer, is that spending an entire day being paid to do something you love is not the same as fun. It’s often better than fun, but it’s not fun. What nobody tells you is that spending an entire day being paid to do something you love is sometimes a lot less fun than spending an entire day doing something you love for free.
What nobody tells you is that selling out is strangely comforting. That once you’ve decided to package your product and suck a little corporate dick for the chance to show most of what you like to do but structured as a James Bond theme and wearing black and yellow because it goes with the logo, the large check that ensues will feel earned. That paying rent with your art money feels like finally growing up. That you probably can come up with five hundred words about margarine and even feel proud of making it sound like something people would eat. (Please don’t.)
What nobody tells you is that if you believe in yourself and dream big dreams you will still come in second to someone who worked hard. Or to a talentless hack related to the producer. Or to someone sleeping with the editor. Or to your best friend whom you will have to congratulate as sincerely as possible. Or to someone no better than you and there will be no reason at all.
What nobody tells you is that if you believe in yourself and dream big dreams and work hard you can accomplish anything, but if you’re willing to wear a sexy outfit while accomplishing it, or include vampires, you’ll get paid a lot more.
What nobody tells you is that you have to be the kind of person who can hear a hundred no’s before you get to yes, and that if you are not that kind of person, selling your art may not be for you. Here, let’s practice:
No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. I’ll call you back. No. No. No. No. No. We went with someone else. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. My cousin will do it for free. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. This did not fit our needs at this time; we sincerely wish you the best of luck placing it elsewhere. No. No. No. No. No. NO. No. No. No. NO. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No response means no. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. NO. Next! No. No. No. No. No. My boss said no. My editor said no. No. No. No. No. No. NO. Sorry. No. No.
No.
Speaking editorially, we should get to ‘yes’ here, but it’s better to experience the dissatisfaction of having our expectations unfulfilled, so we can quit before dissatisfaction crushes us. Or, so we can immunize ourselves.
So we can say, I am blue. My work is blue. The blue of a thousand cerulean seas. The blue of Texas bluebells. The stunning blue of the sky from the top of the mountain. The deep blue of sapphires. The gentle blue of my mother’s eyes. The best blue.
They might want red.
And what nobody tells you is that it’s not up to you to be red, and that whether or not you want to make your blue more of a purple, or draw a crimson border around it, or pass out violet-tinted glasses to all your readers, it is a choice. Your choice. Your choice to change or stay the course, and neither of those are wrong.
It is not a cruel world full of no.
It is a beautiful world in which the one (or many) persons to whom your work–your particular, personal work–speaks are waiting for you. Waiting for you to grow, to revise, to polish, to publicize, to sell, to share. Waiting for you to make art they love and will pay for.
Go and find them.
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Allison K Williams is Brevity’s Social Media Editor and the author of Seven Drafts: Self-Edit Like a Pro from Blank Page to Book. She tweets @GuerillaMemoir. Want writing news, events, and upcoming webinars? Join the A-List!
Reblogged this on MALE DANIEL and commented:
Nice
Thanks for the reblog!
Dear Allison,
Thank you so much for giving us the chance to read your blog post. We enjoyed it very much, and if it is still available, would love to plaster it all over our social media channels.
Please send an updated bio and a black and white image. There will be no galleys, no pay, and possibly some misquoting. But we’ll do our best to get the word out to all of our followers.
Sincerely,
The Editors
LOL 🙂 Yep, I’ve gotten that one!
God, I loved this.
Thank you 🙂
I’ve never heard anyone tell it as well as you just did. So, thank you, dear Allison :))
You’re welcome, and thanks 🙂
Terrific. Printing it for my “keep going” file.
Thank you and yes, keep going!!!
You managed to tear apart every molecule of what it means to be a writer and then you stitched it back up skin-tingling finesse. Oh I love being a writer. What nobody tells you is that it is always, always, always worth it in the end:). Or maybe they do tell us that? Either way, it works out just fine doesn’t it?
“It is a beautiful world in which the one (or many) persons to whom your work–your particular, personal work–speaks are waiting for you. Waiting for you to grow, to revise, to polish, to publicize, to sell, to share. Waiting for you to make art they love and will pay for.”
It’s so worth it 🙂
Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes…
Simply put, this is awesome writing.
wow very well written.. i loved it very much…
Funny, sad, optimistic, and true.
so wonderful. I’ll be sharing it with my budding college writers.
Utterly splendid. And…so sweetly and oddly encouraging to us writers who, like moths to the flame, keep coming back for more!
Thanks – go you!!!!
Very good post! I could post a response in my blog.
A wonderful, if hard to swallow, description of the biz if ever I’ve read one.
It’s amazing how thick a skin we have to grow 🙂
Loved this.
“Suck a little corporate dick”–ha. Don’t we all?
“I tried to feel bad when that critic killed himself the next year, but I didnt”. Wow, you must either have some thin skin or youre generating a lot of crap to have that kind of reaction to a very harmless critique.
What nobody tells you is that you’re a swell writer. ….love ur work
Thanks 🙂
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Me encanto!!!
❤ love this.
This is brilliant.
I agree about the sensitivity. I am both an artist and a writer, so double ouch. I am waiting for an agent’s email and hope for a lightning strike, but am preparing for rain, just in case. Seeing your 100 nos was good for my soul has become a little umbrella.
I’m glad you have an umbrella 🙂 And thanks!
And if you can’t take all that rejection, remember that it really is okay to do something else. No one will think the worse of you, and you certainly should not think the worse of yourself. Allowing yourself to be pummeled by rejection for years is certainly an option, but I find it rather sadistic. One school of thought holds that art=pain. But remember, it really is okay to be good to yourself by climbing down off that wheel. If you want to keep going, fine. If you’re sick of the torture, however, remember that it’s fine to jump off that hamster wheel and enjoy other modes of living.
Right on! We have a bit on another writer, on quitting her writing career, a few days ago. Check it out!
This is spectacular. I appreciate the opportunity to read it.
Beautifully written. ..I absolutely loved reading it..
Keep it up!!
Real anger from a true artist. Wisely said….
It’s the “go and find them” that’s the rub, tho’, innit? If it were that easy, the rest of your post wouldn’t have been written. Alas…
It takes a lot of no’s, but when you find them, it gets easier to keep finding them. Keep on keepin’ on!
I love the poetic style of this essay, the honesty, and the emotional portrayal of struggles most all artists face. Thanks!
Well written and observed. Thank you
Though there seem to be many things nobody told you, I’d still take an opportunity to be an artist or a writer without as much as a hesitation. 😛
I can’t imagine doing anything else.
Spot on! I think that those of us in the arts need to be true to ourselves and our dreams. There is an audience out there. The key – and the practical challenge – is discovery. Made easier by the web and yet at the same time harder because of its scale. But this is, I think, a soluble problem.
Many nails hit on the head – thanks. And/but I am reminded of a comment made by Tim Minchin (now hugely successful) in a documentary about his breakthrough phase, where he said that he was aware that the time before he made it was the best – when he knew he had something good but the rest of the world didn’t, yet. The ‘yet’ is crucial of course.
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Amen!
Reblogged this on mrkillitallday's Blog and commented:
Intresting perspectives. Or truth?
The problem is we want acceptance and not rejection. On the other hand some people have different tastes and some may not like what we write. Being subjective is hard and being a yes man or woman is useless. Go with your instinct and write for you. Be true to yourself for that is the real reader.
My heart sunk to my stomach a few paragraphs into it. Nothing like having your ideals crushed, BUT, I like the silver lining. Great read.
Thanks, and I’m glad you made it through 🙂
Speaking the truth for many artists. Very inspiring.
Reblogged this on UTHM CIVIL ENGINEER and commented:
Disinformation, what nobody tells you about the life experiences one has to go through even though you are not necessarily an artist, are information we come to receive and realize from the harsh reality we experienced and usually in a sudden and shocking way.
This article is one for the readers to read and contemplate about when they pursue to do things they need, want and yearn to do like a startup, an interview or becoming an artist.
Amazing article. Enjoyed it a lot!
I’m in love with this. Thank you.
Reblogged this on Lena's InkCage and commented:
I could tell you something to introduce this post, but I’ll just leave you with a list of things Nobody tells you..
Brava! Nicely done.
This was an excellent read!
Excellent advice and a great fun read. Congrats of being FP.
Reblogged this on oliviastuddard and commented:
Oh my goodness. This was such an incredible read. It was so hard to swallow, but the message from it is one of truth, one that goes unheard. Seriously. Take some time to read if you’re in a career selling your passion.
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Reblogged! Loved it! Such wisdom. Strangely I felt encouraged by these words and as an aspiring writer this was exactly what I needed to read beginning this new blog!
Thank you for setting the realism bar. I have stories I have written but been afraid to even try publishing because I fear they are not good enough. Your ending “…the one (or many) persons to whom your work–your particular, personal work–speaks are waiting for you. Waiting for you to grow, to revise, to polish, to publicize, to sell, to share.” is exactly what I needed to hear.
I’m so glad to hear that! We are never the only ones hearing no, and it’s part of the journey on the way to yes 🙂 Go find your readers and have a wonderful journey!
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Love this. I have yet to experience all, or indeed any, of the wonders of the arts industries that you have so eloquently described for us here, but I am at least entering the fray with my eyes, and mouth a little, open.
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I loved this piece.
Reblogged this on sugarbumprincess and commented:
Read this all the way through and feel invigorated.
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I bet to change! But always in blue..
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This is gorgeous & timely. Thank you.
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Brilliant post on what nobody ever tells you about being an artist, and why you might possibly want to consider quitting.
So happy Ive created a blog. To be able and say all things I want say but usually never can, is more than having a phone call convo with your mother or best friend. Its been real and mind opening.
This was so captivating…. I wish to follow you brevity ! Keep up the posts?! Anyone else having such a deep choice of words…I have found my hide out. My safe way to release.
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Love this, thank you!
So good. So true. Inspired to hear “no,” thank you.
Nice post… You write well
Yep, heard plenty of no’s, still do. Can’t say they get easier but, if you have gumption and a “little” stubborn streak, they become easier to overcome.
Plus, this helps me:
I flick them off in my head as I verbally thank them for their time.
It’s a corp PC thing. Keeps me working and big boss happy.
I forgot to mention, this has happened on the writing and music for my part, I’m not that great with visual art creation. But there’s a lovely studio close by that let’s us drink and paint… Does that count? Best stress relief EVER besides blogging my heart out.
Love this! Please check out my blog which relays to a similar frustration – ‘The experience of inexperience – it’s a chicken and egg situation’: http://sayjal11.wordpress.com/2014/04/07/the-experience-of-inexperience-its-a-chicken-and-egg-situation/
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Love this!
Well done, drew me in, massaged my ego, sent me spiralling down, then pulled me back up to reality. Enjoyed this with my Sunday morning coffee.
Thank you – and thanks for telling me about the experience of reading, that’s cool to hear!
Well written Thankyou
Thank you, I needed to hear this message today.
You’re welcome – I’m glad I could send it.
This is exactly the kind of crisis and catharsis that U go through twice a week… On a good week! Thank you for putting in word what we all been feeling.
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Brilliant.
Feels true. And the part about being (a beautifully descriptive) blue or red is well said.
I quoted you and sent it to my friends and family. Because what you wrote, is unbelievably true. It saddens to me to watch humans get blind sided by the truth.
“What nobody tells you is that praise—a standing ovation, a good review, your teacher’s approval—makes you feel good for a day, but one line of internet criticism from a stranger reverberates in your skull forever.”
Which is true. Although, some humans believe they have an imaginary wall built to block out rude comments and destructive critics, they fall apart like every other human being when someone stabs their confidence or their emotional stability. It is human nature to feel hurt and broken. It is human, to feel defeated. Telling the social media world, “Haters gone hate”, and “I don’t care what people think”, will never be enough to block the pain and intolerable discomfort it caused you. Unfortunately, you must embrace the impact and grow from it.
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“What nobody tells you is that praise—a standing ovation, a good review, your teacher’s approval—makes you feel good for a day, but one line of internet criticism from a stranger reverberates in your skull forever.”
Which is true. Although, some humans believe they have an imaginary wall built to block out rude comments and destructive critics, they fall apart like every other human being when someone stabs their confidence or their emotional stability. It is human nature to feel hurt and broken. It is human, to feel defeated. Telling the social media world, “Haters gone hate”, and “I don’t care what people think”, will never be enough to block the pain and intolerable discomfort it caused you. Unfortunately, you must embrace the impact and grow from it.
10 soul sucking years of trying to be creative with other peoples ideas killed my desire to be a photographer. Picking up my camera again two years after quitting is starting to feel good again…on the road of reinvention. Sometimes we have to accept that doing what you love for a living is not the best choice…and that’s ok too. Great post.
What a wonderful discovery–congratulations on the next part of your artistic journey!
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Reasons why taking the next step is so imperative in your artists’ journey. Trusting ones’ own artist self. Finding your voice. Finding your artisan speak. Finding your audience. Trading in ones’ own insecurity for artisan passion and skill. With encouraging smiles, “Keep it moving, keep it real”.
That was entertaining. Good stuff.
I wish I was better than you…. teach me!
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May you make a blog that will inspire a college student-athlete.
I can’t seem to find those writer’s, musicians, artist, or engineers that relate to us.
This is exactly what I needed to read 🙂
Nice article. Seems to be a pretty constant caveat for writers, bloggers, artists and people who want to create something to reveal to other people
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Wicked!!!! :p enjoyed every line.
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I like to think I’ve very used to rejection now, in every part of my life, both public and personal, to the point that it doesn’t bother me anymore. But I don’t know how possible it is to become immune to rejection totally. It’s hard to take criticism; it’s much harder to take total dismissal.
I agree! At least when someone criticizes, they’ve engaged with our work in some way. I don’t know if you can ever become totally immune. But it is possible (for me, anyway) to soften the blow. One thing I do is send out daily submissions for 20-30 days in a row. The first rejection sucks. But by the fifth or sixth one, I’ve actually forgotten who I’ve sent to (I keep a chart for withdraws if necessary). So instead of “awww,” I think “Wait, what did I send you?”
Poetic justice would be to dismiss the rejections and reject the dismissals 🙂 It’s one way of taking back control. And not being ‘immune’ to it is what gears you up for action.
Very well said. Makes me feel a little better knowing others are struggling at this too. Andd when I want to stop, but don’t, well, persistence is key.
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You made me feel good about my doubts as an artist. I doubt it everyday. Thanks for the gorgeous blog.
You’re welcome, and thanks for reading! I think doubt is one of the things that keeps us from complacency–but I wouldn’t mind a little complacency, either 🙂
Love your blog and this post! Check me out I promise you won’t be disappointed!
I had fun reading this, then suddenly realized that if I ever have to publish something I’ll have to go through this!
Great post!!
Cute masterpiece of dancing elephants!
How true…not only hearing the many “no’s”, but hearing the criticisms along with those “no’s”. It isn’t thick skin artists/writers must adorn, it is blind-love-persistence to the art itself and screw the “no’s”!
Thank you for this wonderful, wonderful reminder to keeping to the momentum of our art no matter.
“person who can hear a hundred no’s before you get to yes, and that if you are not that kind of person, selling your art may not be for you.”
Selling anything in a prospective way. As you go to customers – who are able to buy “art” (whatever you are calling so) they were not waiting after you to live.
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Well said. Bravo!
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I like the angle
Reblogged this on Paint into a Corner and commented:
Lovely post on art inspiration.
Good post. Say it like it is. Always the best way if not always popular!
This is a wonderful piece of writing!
Reblogged this on Laurie Easter and commented:
There is so much I love about this, so many gems of insight.
Really great post.
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Feeling that. All the things I think but don’t say about my passion and hobby gone work mode.
This was a wonderful read. Very good advice, too.
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Exclusive!
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Exclusive!
I am an artist, and I love this.
Thanks 🙂
So– stick to my day job??
Reblogged this on keyasmamma and commented:
A draft..beautiful creation..an aspiring article 😊
Great post! And so true thank you!
Reblogged this on Tee's Tiny Blog and commented:
So true!
That moved me.
Thank you Allison.
I followed the lead over from writing 101. Challenge Brevity.
Found instead familiar understanding.
Being an artist, a writer, blogger, painter, in my case, photographer.
Your words resonate,
I acknowledge the path
to travel this creativity is our companion.
No or yes, understanding or not
The artist knows, and does,
to be an artist.
So right. Every word. Thank you.
My [mostly blue, No-inundated, tired, happy to sell out but nobody’s buying, too used up to call home at the end of the day, still obsessed with art & writing] heart leaps in recognition at this! Beautifully said. 😀
Kathryn
I can relate to the frustration of living a dream. I had the good paying creativity killing job, the freelance jobs with high standards and low pay and so forth. I am also trying to get my work out there and it’s sometimes hard to stay true to yourself and your art. And the end of your article is something I am also holding onto now. There are people waiting for my personal work and I will push on through till I have found them all.
It’s great to hear about your journey – keep going!
Thanks for sharing this post. Very encouraging
Have been living purple a long time, gotta make a living – thanks for a great read!
This. Is. Perfect!
Considering how many times I read the word no, that was the most positive post I’ve read in a long time. Thank you
You’re welcome, and thanks 🙂
If you have to hear 1000 “no’s” to get to a yes, then I’ll just keep rereading this article!
Right post at the right time. Excellent post! Thank you!
This is an important inspirational message to all young writers and artists everywhere. Thank you 🙂
I wish I could write so well. Very interesting read and I’m sorry but my beginning Blog will not even come close to this but what and inspiration. Thank you for Sharing.
so true-what got to me was how “anonymous” the internet is that people leave uncalled for criticism or are just wrong, anti-social and mean comments as if they don’t have anything else to say. A “critic” is just that-“paid” to be mean-ignoring all of the hard work you put into your craft. “Keep on trucking” as they used to say
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Delighted to read this good sense so well expressed.
William Laing
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Good thinking, Well written = good feeling. Thanks
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