Thirteen Thoughts On Writing
March 12, 2019 § 100 Comments
- Writing is an invitation to humility—you realize you’re on the wrong track, you’ve lost connection with a scene, an emotion, a voice. The return on that humility is when your imagination lets you slip into someone else’s skin. The tales you come up with tell the story you are trying to tell when you sit down to write and also the story of the years you spend working on the book. Rendering a/your life into art changes you.
- Trust your intuitions but trust (admit) that you don’t understand what your intuitions are telling you. They have their own truth and direction; your job is to follow where they lead. This doesn’t mean you don’t exert control, but you don’t exert as much control as you think you do. And you are often at your best when you don’t.
- Defend your story; don’t give up on it. At the same time, accept that you actually don’t know what the story is that you can tell. It’s likely that what you thought is your story is not your story but a way to discover your story. The poet Richard Hugo talks about what he calls the ‘triggering town’—the place where everything starts, that lets you fly off on the next leap of the heart.
- Trust your dissatisfactions with what you’re doing. The more you trust them, the more chance you have to make changes.
- Don’t be afraid of mistakes; they tell you what you are trying that you don’t have control over. They suggest that you are venturing into new territory where you’re not yet sure what you are doing. They’re a sign that you are stretching yourself.
- Learn about and trust your own rhythms as a writer. That means not only when you write best in the day or week but where, how often, and in what ways. Do you work from outlines? Write the end and then figure out how to get there? Or do you write with no idea where you are going or why? (And if you’re stuck, then your system isn’t working for you anymore; give it up.)
- Write the first draft so you can get to the second and third and fourth because you can’t get to them except through the awkward and ugly and insufferable and embarrassing and seemingly useless first, second and third.
- It’s nice to think that art develops organically, from seed to sprout to leaf to narrative. Yes and no. Keep asking yourself, “What work is this moment/scene/word doing?” Answering requires calculation. You manipulate characters, alter lines of dialogue, make up narrative moves. You strategize, reorder, play God. You keep returning to the truth.
- Tangents can turn out to be the heart of your book. It might take you months or years to figure out what to do with those seeming throwaways—how to put them where they belong, at the center of the story you didn’t know you were after.
- Make someone else read your work. Forgive them for not loving it or you and for the things they tell you. You asked, remember?
- Send your manuscript out when you think it is ready and be pretty sure you’re wrong—it most likely is not yet ready. But send it anyway. Then send it again. In between, ask yourself why others don’t think it is ready. Pretend you believe they know better than you. Pretend they are wrong. Pretend there is something to learn or do next.
- Don’t waste too much time with the Imposter Syndrome and Fraud Police: that inner voice of doubt that says you have no talent, that everyone knows this but is too polite to tell you. The voice that screams that you are and always have been a fake; that your comeuppance is coming. It might be true. But it might not. And no one knows, even you.
- Maybe my favorite quote about being an artist or human being, and the one I’ve found the most difficult to live by, comes from a Chinese art manual:
Never lose your awkwardness. Awkwardness once lost can never be regained.
If you’ve got anything to add to this world of ours it won’t come from pretending to be someone else. Trip, stumble, admit that you’re an awkward oaf like all the rest of us awkward oafs. Write as you fall, why you fall, how you live with the bruised ego, why it’s worth getting up.
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Paul Skenazy won the 2018 Miami University Press Novella Prize for Temper, CA. The book is available from your local bookstore, Amazon, Barnes and Noble, and Miami University Press.
I have printed this out to read again in a month or so as I work on this book. Such good advice here.
I almost cried at the part on awkwardness. I try to teach my students this every chance I get. I was the most awkward human alive for my first two decades, but I was taught to see that with shame. Now, much of the awkwardness can be prevented, and I find myself missing it like a most intimate past self.
Great work here. Will print to read more. Will share with others.
Thank you. You are teaching something we all need to hear that doesn’t get said. Your students are lucky to have you in their lives.
Each point of advice is spot-on. Thank you,Paul. I really needed to read words put to all the craziness running around my brain and ( sometimes not) out through my fingertips.
More essential wisdom here than I’ve
read in one place in a long time. I’ve figured most of it out at some point: trouble is I forget it in the crunch and need frequent reminders. Thanks!
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So I stumbled across this most excellent list on the fundamentals of the honest, humble, and authentic process to writing. To thine own self be true – can mean do not bullshit yourself.
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Thanks for these wonderful tips.
I am truly motivated thanks alot I really needed that especially as a young writer.Gid bless you
They say, always have a pen and a pad beside you so that you can easily manifest your thoughts into words.
These are some amazing thoughts, you really hit the nail on the head here! I will definitely remember these 13 things every time I sit down to write now!
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Excellent! Will definitely come in handy.
This is quite a great contribution to my pool of knowledge. Thank you.
This was a great read during a cup of tea. Thanks.
So much advice in there on things that have stopped me committing to writing for years. Thank you for the encouragement.
This I’ve been coming to learn first hand. Failure is a part of life that needs to be embraced not shunned, it’s a thing to grow from not walk away from. I’ve recently started writing with more dedication of a world that I’ve been visiting for years. Writing small paragraphs here and there, that take place in different times in the same universe. At times it feels disjointed, but it makes sense as it is a reflection of the creator and that may be a strength that I don’t see.
I heard it said somewhere, that what is common to you may be a miracle to someone else.
Certainly true in writing, there are so many styles, both established and yet to be known. I’m learning to see the value of flaws and imperfections; there’s certainly much value in individual awkwardness. Thanks for the read!
I love my awkwardness.
Thank you. Very poignant.
I may be stating the obvious, but I must say: this is life. I’m learning so much, and this actually helps to sort of put into words what I have been learning so far. Thank you.
I especially love #4. It’s so easy to put aside and tell yourself you are undully critical or over perfectionistic.
Your bo el need you to be dissatisfied.
Awkardness…. It seems to be a tough job in the social media age where we always paint ourselves with perfection. A worth read.
I love the second thought.
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Wonderful sharing, :))
As a new writer, I love this! Thank you for your words!
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Great thoughts and advice on writing! We can all use some advice and inspiration especially from experienced fellow writers. I liked this piece because it seemed like honest and genuine advice minus the hype. Sometimes we all need a little help and this articled helped me, so I hope it can do the same for you.
Never give up on you or your writing. Writers need to help each other succeed and to achieve their dreams!
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Thanks so much! The part about forgiving others for their comments was very meaningful to me. I always have trouble with constructive criticism. Thanks again!
Brilliant 👌
This is great. Thanks for sharing.
The part of this that I feel was the most helpful for me, was where you talked about imposter syndrome. I feel that it is something I may never get over, but I will continue to fake it until I make it, or or not. Thank you for the post.
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Beautiful piece.
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This just talks to me. I love it
I have saved this and will keep reading it regularly so as to not give up too soon. I had been toying with the idea of blogging since years, only never really started it due to uncertainty and fear about whether am I really good at this, or will I just end up making a fool of myself?! Today I published my first blog, and I couldn’t have come across your post at a better time! 🙂
That is a punch of reality – awkwardness-oh yes!
Thanks for this
Thanks for the 13 things to keep in mind. I’m at a very early stage of opening myself to writing. https://markward.today
Such perfect advice!
“It’s nice to think that art develops organically, from seed to sprout to leaf to narrative.”
This statement is so much motivational. Spending March month in writing and coming across this article , feels so good.
Love it! Made me laugh. Saw myself. Thanks!
Thx
Thank you for this. I love number 7 and wrote the quote at the end in my writing journal
Melody
Love this!
I had to save this. Thank you!
This was great. Thanks for this!!
Love these thoughts on writing; trusting one’s self and listening to the inner dialogue while writing gives so much satisfaction…!
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Inspiring- thank you.
After launching my blog just two days ago, I am so happy to have found and read this post. I write from my heart, this is why I started my blog. I am in a great as and when I write, place regardless of any outside noise. Humility, indeed!
Being awkward is essential to being an artist. I love this advice and will save this, thank you and good luck with your writing journey.
I absolutely loved this post! Yes yes yes!!!!
Thanks.
Absolutely beautifully written! Really made me think about the book I’m currently writing. Thank you for your words!
The content is helpfull:)
Point 7 is particularly brilliant. The ugly embarrassing phases involved in getting to good and then better. I am getting better at developing a tolerance for this – but it is hard!!
Great write
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Interesting article. Liked it.
For people who are trying to write, this is just the kind of support we need to have from time-to-time. Thank you!
I started my first blogging writing experience just some days ago. Lot of truth is said in this post!
It’s very useful sir…thank you
I have save it in my notes phone, because I’ll review it time to time. It’s a good code. Thank you Mr. Paul.
Nice! I’m an aspiring author and as a student I really wish they thought us this in English class. It’s important to know that you will make mistakes and have ugly writing, but that it can help you grow. It would be cool if you could check out my blog! I do a lot of creative writing on there and this article definitely will be useful.
Great read. Authentic voice is something all authors strive to express. I’m reblogging this as part of my #writingtips for #writingcommunity series. Please let me know if there’s a better way to credit you.
Thank you 🙏
I shall again trust my journey
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Your advice here is so good & pure. your words made me have a conversation with myself about my ungodly expectations for my blog. I want to make typography art with some of the quotes to hang around my desk for reminders that I’m on the path 🤗
Great blog!
Sir , this blog has given me hope . I dream to become a professional writer . Thank you so much
Amazingly honest! I certainly need this by my side as a reference during my writing process. Thank you!
Super helpful and inspiring for this baby blogger who is just figuring out a new world of humanity and humility. Thanks!
I very much enjoyed that it was well spoken/written. If you don’t mind I would love to here more deep from a writer to a just beginning writer advice. Please share more
Thank you !
Thank you, Paul, for such a good read. It is something I really needed to read today.
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Thank you for your advice! I wont quit…i will follow my dream. Your article made me stronger. Thanks again!
This is fantastic. It’s a permission slip to keep trying only now with some fine advice. I fill return to this often. Thank you.
Amazing!!
Paul, this is solid advice and delivered in a poet way that’s enjoyable to read through. I liked it a lot, thanks!
I agree! I often find myself starting to write about one topic only to refine its subject matter by the end. Sometimes the end result is much different from its intended topic.
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I agree you need to defend and believe in what you write. I love writing short stories. One thing I have learned is to never fall in love with a sentence. If the sentence does not fit or make sense in your story then you may have to delete it . I have had to delete many sentences I felt was thought provoking. But the sentence was just overly long and dramatic.
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Thank you! I found this very encouraging. I shared your post on my own blog, as well.
Electrifying and motivating for freshers like me.
Awesome, I love this. God bless you
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I found these writing tips by Paul Skenazy to be very pertinent to myself as a writer.
I really like the one that says “Never lose your awkwardness,” I have awkwardness by the bucketload, so I’ve got that part covered.
Really, though, when I read and consider these points, they converge into an encouragement to be the writer only you can be, and to tell the story the way only you can tell it.
Individuality,
Awkwardness.
I think I’ve got this.
I’m guessing this is the inspiration I’ve been looking for just started my own blog and I’m barely eighteen I guess it’s a pretty bold step and I need all the encouragement I can get thank you Soo much for this piece I love it!!!
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