Nonfiction Writing Tips from the Advice Goddess

May 18, 2012 § 6 Comments

Syndicated advice columnist Amy Alkon, also known as The Advice Goddess, offers some writing advice for us all.

First the question:

Dear Advice Goddess: After my girlfriend and I split up, I wrote a creative nonfiction piece about our breakup (changing some identifying details).

I published it on a popular blog and linked to it on Facebook. We’re back together, and things are great; however, she saw the story and was humiliated.

I explained that what I wrote was beautiful and vulnerable and true, and many people were moved by it. She really wasn’t down with that and told me to consider her off-limits in my writing.

This seems unfair. I write nonfiction. What will I write about if I can’t write about my life?— Expressive

And the answer, as printed in the San Angelo Texas Standard-Times:

Dear Expressive: As lame as some creative writing exercises sound — “Write a haiku about what you had for lunch!” — a thinly veiled portrait of your chicken salad will cause way less relationship stress than “Turn your fight with your girlfriend into a blog post!” (And no, you can’t just change her name from Molly to Holly so nobody but your 546 Facebook friends will know it’s her.)

Yes, I’ve heard — privacy is reportedly dead. It was pronounced dead in 2006 at an Internet security conference. This doesn’t mean that it is actually dead or should be — just that lots of people are finding their dirty laundry uploaded to Instagram and their private conversations turned into content….

But, wait — if you and your girlfriend have a fight and nobody comments on it on Facebook, how do you know your lives are worth living? The answer is, decide which you want more, this girlfriend or an audience. This isn’t to say you have to stop writing about her; you just don’t get to hit “publish.” Try to see this as an opportunity to expand your writerly horizons.

Go do things you can write about: Climb something. Fish for marlin. Drop in on the Spanish Civil War. And remember, everybody’s got a story, and lots of people are just dying to have theirs told. Seek them out, look deep into their eyes, and say, “So, tell me the horrors you experienced as a prisoner of war, and would you mind not leaving any participles dangling?”

Where Am I?

You are currently browsing entries tagged with The Advice Goddess at BREVITY's Nonfiction Blog.

%d bloggers like this: